Our story: We always knew we would be parents, but never imagined it would be this hard.
There are only a few people who KNOW our whole story. However, in honor of infertility awareness week, we want to share our story.
Here goes everything!
Joe and I have been friends since high school. We have shared tons of life experiences, and we are always there to support one another.
Our story though, is not a high school sweetheart's story, but rather an, "It's amazing we ended up here" story! You see we never intended to date, much more get married, but our thoughts were not God’s thoughts. Obviously!
Let’s fast forward, or rewind (whichever!) to early 2007. After many late night talks, we realized that this was “it” THE BIG “IT”. We belonged together. It was like the light bulb went on -- we were each other's ONE!
Within 11 months we were engaged and married. Oh what fun!!!! Just like any other young married couple we just assumed we would get pregnant and have babies.
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case.
It still isn’t.
The thought that we would be entrusted with life’s great gift, LIFE, is one of the most humbling and honoring experiences in this world. To have that “stolen” from you really tests who you are. For Joe and I, it has redefined who we are, and who we will be. We have learned to completely and wholeheartedly trust God through this process.
Regardless of infertility's difficult journey, we know that God's intentions for us are good; He wants what we want.
To give you a very raw, intimate look into our journey I humbly share this: In 2009 I went to the doctor for my annual checkup and left with a crushing blow, “You have polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) and your risk of infertility is very high."
My 22-year-old self just kind of blew it off and figured that somehow it would all work out. That I would be fine. For those who don’tknow what PCOS is, they are cysts or polyps on the ovaries that affect a multitude of things. One of them being the ability to conceive. We were successful at conceiving once, but then lost that sweet baby very early on.
We’ve tread through some deep ditches, but our Savior has been with us all along, with every trudging and disappointing step. ("Teach them to obey everything I have commanded you. And you can be sure that I am always with you, to the very end.” Matthew 28:20)
It has now been five years since Joe and I started trying to have OUR baby. We are still waiting patiently. In the meantime we have invested significantly in the First Response Corporation. :-)
Our current place in our “future parents” journey is starting the adoption process. While we would love to have biological children, and how I would love to conceive and carry our child, we know that we are called to adopt. We know that our family will look like God’s family -- a little different.
While we look forward to that day that we hold our sweet baby, our hearts remain confident in Him.
An ending Disclaimer: We did not write this for anyone to feel bad or sorry for us or the thousands of others that walk through this but rather we hope you have been moved with compassion to pray for those less fortunate in this area.
Please feel free to contact us about our story by leaving a comment. We would enjoy hearing from you.
Sincerely, Joe & Carrie Alford
P.S. We are very excited to announce that we are currently "in discussions" with Joe & Carrie about being a Because of Isaac family! Keep them in your prayers and please take a moment to encourage them in a comment.
(Please note that all parts of this article are the opinion of the guest writer and not necessarily viewpoints that I personally share)